Hearing the news of an unplanned pregnancy can be just as shocking and confusing for the guy as it is for the woman. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or pressured, know this: Your feelings are valid, and your presence matters. You are not just a bystander; you are a key part of this decision-making process.
At Pathway to Hope, we offer free, confidential support for men and women navigating unplanned pregnancies. You don’t have to face this alone.
Show Up and Listen
One of the most impactful things you can do right now is to be present. Open the conversation, listen without judgment, and validate her feelings. This isn’t the time to offer quick fixes or pressure her toward a specific choice. Ask her how she is feeling and what she needs from you. Facing the uncertainty together strengthens trust and helps her feel supported rather than alone.
Get the Facts
Before making any decision, whether parenting, adoption, or abortion, you both need accurate information. Many men face intense pressure from friends, family, or even the mother of the baby, and that pressure can cloud judgment.
Instead of reacting out of fear, seek out reliable resources. Our center offers free, confidential counseling for both of you, helping you understand each option clearly. When you’re equipped with accurate information, you can move forward with confidence rather than confusion.
Understand Your Role
Although the final decision is hers, your support and involvement are essential. Your approach can significantly impact her experience and the path you choose together.
Consider what your role might look like in each scenario:
- If she chooses parenting: Explore how you can be a committed, responsible father—either as partners or co-parents.
- If she considers adoption: Learn about open, semi-open, and closed adoption so you both understand what each option looks like long-term.
- If she chooses abortion: Prepare to support her emotionally before, during, and after the process. Showing up with empathy makes a meaningful difference.
Being willing to take responsibility, communicate honestly, and stay engaged can shape not only the outcome, but also your relationship and future.
Talk to Us
You don’t have to carry this quietly. Pathway to Hope provides a safe, confidential space for men to process their emotions, ask questions, and understand their responsibilities. You deserve support and clarity just as much as she does.
Reach out to us today. Let us help you navigate this challenging moment and become the strong, compassionate partner and potential father you want to be.
